Even in families, even with our children, whose love so easily claims our whole hearts, our first love must still be for God. Only in the Kingdom of that divine love do we become even able truly to love our families as ourselves and to place that love even before material possessions. In my view this insight is especially helpful to us now, given that our definitions of what a family is continue to expand. We’re learning to include same sex couples, chosen families, etc. We especially need this insight now given the whole range of anxieties that these changes can bring up in us at times.